Sorry to rain on your parade, but if those numbers are inches and not millimeters and you really want to machine stainless steel, there's no way you're going to do that with a home-made moving gantry machine that you can easily move in and out of an apartment. You're right about the spindle, though - it would be totally unsuited for the job. There's really no such thing as a "router-mill hybrid" - these are separate species that don't normally produce viable offspring. If you build a very heavy-duty router, you can use it to cut aluminum. If you build a mill with a very fast auxiliary spindle, you can use it to cut wood. If you want a large mill that will cut steel, it's not likely to be compatible with apartment living, and could well fall through the floor. Have you asked your landlord about this idea?
I can't make much sense of your drawings - do you still have a CAD program? I've never heard of "cancer/CAD" but it sounds like something I wouldn't want to catch...