Ah! Think I solved it.
So the biggest problem was there was a jumper on the board connecting VF instead of VI that needed to be moved.
Then I needed to set PD073 to 0 (instead of 120 as I have read elsewhere) or it would come on with VFD power at 120hz.
Then I needed to set PD011 to 0 (instead of 120 as I have read elsewhere) or it would not shut of with M5, only go down to 120hz.
Are those settings safe? Is there a way to have the VFD only activate with a VI that gives at least 120, without it automatically starting or not shutting off?
Hope this info help someone!