Your control box looks great and using the parts from an arcade control is brilliant. When I saw the I-PAC, I started searching for a cheaper solution and found a few instructions to hacking a usb keyboard to do a similar function:
Dr. Monk's DIY Electronics Blog: Hack a USB Computer Keyboard to Make a Synth Pedal Board A note on pin layouts and shift registers
Makes me wish I had not thrown out my old keyboards, but I could see a number of uses for the controllers (and the I-PAC).
I also saw that you mentioned you were gonna build a board with a small relay to driver a larger one. I picked up some boards for another project on ebay which have opto-isolated relays and were pretty cheap. If you search for "arduino relay" on ebay quite a few will pop up (I am not sure if most of them are opto-isolated though). I also found one that says it will do 30A (FWIW).
The parts washer looks cool, I am gonna check it out next time I get down to HF. The only thing I'd be concerned about is the head on that small pump. I used a similar small fountain pump from HF and it was not up to the task (though it had to push about 5' of water). In my setup the flow rate was so low it would not push chips away from the cuts. I recently picked up a much more capable sump pump which I have yet to set up since I am re-thinking the whole setup for flood coolant. It looks like that parts washer could take a larger pump upgrade too.
I also picked up an in-line aquarium UV filter which I will use with the smaller fountain pump (probably on a timer) to circulate the coolant around so it does not get too funky (hopefully).