Welcome to CNC Zone and I am pleased my thread attracked your first post.
This is my first attempt at CNC as well. Could I suggest that you start your own build thread and post some pictures of your motors and drives so that I, and others here, can get a better idea of your specific wiring problems. I will subscribe to your thread and be happy to respond quickly with my limited knowledge. I would imagine that most of the wiring that I have worked out is specific to my Mill, Drives and Servos. I am sure we can all learn something from each other. I sourced my cables from Farnell, (now called Element 4), details on previous pages. They were ordered from Farnell Australia but shipped from the UK. Good price and service. Try them online.