Jade is another story altogether. I'm not sure what Roman was working on with his file and hacksaw, but it doesn't sound like true jade; probably it was a green steatite, which can look rather jadelike. Jade is also the least brittle mineral I can think of, due to its fibrous structure. Of course, if the material is fractured, that will cause it to fall apart at the cracks, but that's not the same as brittleness.
That black nephrite is not going to respond well to attempts to cut it with a carbide endmill, no matter how slowly you go. While the tungsten carbide cutter is significantly harder than the jade (9.0 vs 6.5 on the Mohs scale), the toughness of nephrite, from the interlocking fibers of actinolite that permeate it, is not going to allow any chips to peel off. All you'll do is rub the teeth off your cutter and heat up your jade.
You will need diamond tooling to make any significant impact on that material. Sintered diamond burs will last a lot longer than plated diamond ones; once the plating wears off, cutting action ceases, but in a sintered tool there's diamond underneath, not just on the surface. You'll also need flood coolant to flush the cut and keep the tool from overheating. Make sure your mill's slides and screws are well-protected from the abrasive slurry that's produced, or this will kill your machine in short order.
Here's a source for the diamond tooling you'll need (go with the 60 grit for roughing out, and hit it with the other grits successively to refine the surface before polishing):
http://www.mtmist.org/products/jade_eater.html
I'm not sure what feeds and speeds to use, but start with a very light cut (like .002" depth) at a moderate feedrate and see how it goes. "Chip load" calculations don't apply here, since this is a grinding, not a cutting operation.
Andrew Werby
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