The only ones I'm aware of that will automate everything cost several thousand dollars. The major ones in the industry are Pattern Systems and Cabinetvision. You can also look into CadCode and Microvellum.
Alibre has a low cost package that might work for you.
http://www.alibre.com/solutions/woodworking.asp
If you download Alibre Xpress for free, and get on their mailing list, you'll recieve special price offers every few weeks.