Your Phases to Neutral is still 220V only on a 3phase 380V mains system, because the line to line Voltage is 380V and for that the line to neutral is 220V.
So, what you can do is separate the servo drives, for example if you have 3 servo drives all with single phase inputs then connect drive 1. to L1 - N, drive 2 to L2 - N, drive 3 to L3 - N.
This way your drives will load your 3 phases separately so the load will be approximately in balance.
Here is some reading for you about 3 phases mains votlages: https://www.quora.com/What-is-differ...eutral-voltage
I just reread your post and see you worrying about the neutral wire.
I think that however it will sure be loaded much with 9kW of total and it will be not the optimal solution for sure, but the neutral should have been sized to handle that,
otherwise the electricity provider would not give out a permission for the mains installation if the neutral could not handle that load if the phases and the fuses can.