Wow, that's a lot of MDF to load onto your machine!
You could cut the 45 degree edges with a pointed router bit.
Cutting aluminum would require a more rigid machine than most. You might look at the Mechmate plans.
The most popular electronic driver board around here (by far) is the G-540 from Geckodrives.
Most hand routers die prematurely when used as CNC spindles, but if you're just doing cut-out work and not 3d, you might get away with it. But 3-phase spindles run with a VFD are definitely a step up.